Third child by a third man. I guess you make all baby mamma’s proud. lol!! Please don’t follow in her footsteps. She has the money to support these children while most of you don’t.

Peace to you Sister Erykah and also peace to all that stand in support of my sister. Now, to all of those that have chosen to become reps for the “WHO THE F*CK ARE YOU?” SOCIETY. My first question is just that. WHO THE F*CK ARE YOU to be so judgemental? Next question is… How many times has “E’ called you and asked you pay her bills, buy pampers or even to offer your sorry ass advice. Yall have to excuse me, but I really take it personal when there is an attack launched on my people. F*CK THE NEWS THAT AINT EVEN YOUR BUSINESS. How many of yall heard or even care to hear about how many of our lives Erykah was a part of saving? I used to be a street hustla and Erykah was the only “CELEBRITY” who gave a DAM about people like me. She opened her heart and her doors to allow me an opportunity to give back a portion of what I had take from my community. Did yall blog about that? HELL NO! What about when her and her volunteers opened the doors for the children who were effected by the hurricanes and took out the time to show our love. Did yall blog on that? HELL NO!! I find it so odd that people can be so worried bout the WRONG DAM THANGS. There aint enough pages to write about the good that Erykah has done for us and I personally am overjoyed that my sister is continuing to breed the seeds that will keep the legacy going long after there is no physical Erykah Badu. WE LOVE ERYKAH AND WE WILL PROTECT HER BY ALL MEANS NECESSARY!!! WE KEEP THE DONKEY UNDERNEATH THE MISTLETOE FOR ALL YALL FAKE ASS FRIENDS, PHONY ASS FANS AND FRIENDLY ASS FOES!! FUNK ALL OF YALL!!!!!

Bottom line is that she has 3 children by 3 different man if she was just another chick on the street everybody would be talking about her. I don’t care if you are a celebrity or not to continue to have children by a bunch of different men is just ghetto, dumb, and those men can never be a true father to those children and neither can she. So to the idiot that is saying that they will protect her by any means necessary… It ain’t that serious. The woman is what society thinks of african-american women and she is helping their case. Yeah, she can buy the children anything they want but that is such a small part of parenting. When she has 3 different fathers coming in one after another to pick up their child the other 2 will be so confused. With all the tallent that she has she should know better. THIS IS SAD…

I wish people werent so judgemental too. I would never do this but I do not know her situation. I do believe that people are too concerned about others lives and should spend more time with important issues. I do not know her personally so I cannot defend her or her actions. I love music and her spirit. I recently went to see her in DC. One thing that does urk me is when people always have to equate something with being ghetto. Do you know what a ghetto is? Do you not know that it was created by the governemt to hold minorities down…Just because someone who happens do be black makes a choice that you dont agree with, doesnt make them ghetto! Please find another adjective!!! Many of the people that dont have children or have had all planned kids have had abortions and use unnatural birth control habits. I believe children come when their time comes and all of the manmade practices are wrong. There are many unplanned children but there are even more unwanted kids. I praise anyone who is stepping up to the plate and is handling life as it comes and doesnt take the easy way out.

You know what? Erykah takes care of her children.  She’s human. She’s not the only celebrity or person who has more than one father to her children. Diana Ross has two, countless rappers have 3 and 4 ( bobby brown, and p.diddy to name a few) so who are we to judge her situation? We can’t. Worry about what you can do in your own life if you don’t like what she’s doing. Sometimes we need to mind our business because what she does is of no business to you.

What is not being recognized is that she is what people see and think we all are like it or not. What ever society thinks about her having kids with all different fathers they think 10 times worse about an average black woman. She is in the spot light and letting our race down. She needs to stop this. I know the right thing to say is f**k what other people say but in all reality we live on this planet with other people so you can’t just say f**k what they say.

It drives me crazy how people are always worrying about other peoples lives.  Oh well she has 3 kids by 3 different men.  WHO CARES!!  She is a grown woman that is NOT on WELFARE and she is taking care of her kids.  GET OVER IT!!  I bet you all the ones that are sitting on her crying over something that is none of there business aren’t living a perfect life either….  So I say again “GET OVER IT!!”  It is her life and she is not bothering you!!  IDIOTS!

taxpayer money. As long as my taxpayer money isn’t going to support her children, I don’t have an issue with Erykah. Frankly, her koochie is none of my or anyone’s business anyways. I know people that are married with children and are MISERABLE. It’s sad, it really is to see that. Marriage isn’t for anyone. And just because you have children out of wedlock doesn’t mean that they won’t be taken care of and live in a loving environment. There are many different variations of “family” and sometimes marriage just doesn’t work for everyone. Sheesh, it’s Erykah and she’s never done things the “American Way.”

And people need to stop saying she’s letting the race down. Since when did she hold the entire black race on her shoulders? As long as her babies are fine and the fathers are in the children’s lives (which they seem to be) then everything’s fine. And this is Erykah’s life, and her uterus so why do YOU care???

Shoot, if anything her children will be some of the most intelligent, open-minded, talented people on this planet. They’ve traveled the world with her, seen and lived and respected different cultures and know what it’s like to be loved by a QUEEN. Who’s to say that they’ll be confused by their fathers? They’re not stupid. Neither is she.

And that to me really shows me what kind of person she is…

Leave Erykah Badu alone! Nobody talks about how many African Women were used to breed different children by different slave masters. That’s why the world is so mixed up today! So, stop blaming the Nubians of this world because nobody would be here if it wasn’t for the Original Man, Woman and Child! So just Shut Up and Bow Down!

She is the average chick on the street that is dropping kids by a bunch of men. The only difference is that she can FINANCIALLY support them. So what she got money that don’t give her the right to just keep doing this kind of shit. It lloks bad and those that don’t see it look bad as well. If it didn’t matter that she is doing this there wouldn’t be a discussion about it. that tells you right there that something is wrong. Yes shoe does good deeds and is a very tallented singer but that still doesn’t excuse any person from the choices that they make and 3 kids 3 different fathers is a bad choice. If she wanted to breed just to be breeding at least she could have done it with the same guy. People tend to excuse bad choices for someone who is fameous but I can’t do that she is still a person and if we are going to come down on the average person we might as well come down on her too. she needs to stop this shit. BTW, she is letting the race down. What you idiots fail to realize is what the media puts out there is what they think of all of us. Hell, I have ababy on the way but you would never hear that on the news or on the radio or on a web-site. That is because I don’t represent us but like it or not she does weather she wants to or not. Get smart people!

I see some people’s point that one should not have children by different people; however, no matter what Black and Brown people do, we will always be put down for it by our own people and others, as well. Look America, for the first time, we have a Black man, who is really mixed, running for President and people put him down, too. So, it really doesn’t matter if we as people of color do our very best or not because it’s never good enough for anybody, anyhow! Therefore, let Erykah Badu do what she do and you do what you do, too! She’s not destroying anything or anybody, she’s bringing life into this world and that’s a blessing within itself.

It’s nothing idiotic about letting people make their own mistakes in life. If you have children, then it’s your job to help them make better choices. We’re all grown people, I suspect, so it’s really nobody’s business but hers, her man and their God that their having a baby. As far as I’m concerned, those who have abortions after abortions because they got pregnant by all the Toms, Dicks and Harrys are the most disgusting of them all! At least she’s bring life into this world instead of being a HAG and killing her unborn child! She’s doing what’s right, right now, no matter what people say.

To the people that don’t think that Ms. Badu and other entertainers don’t represent us, Just look at one of the last post on Paul Pierce throwing up gang signs and a white person goes on to name a bunch of black athelets and entertainers that have gotten into troulbe and compare those people to all of us. This is why I am telling you all that not by her choice but she represents the whole black race just like all other black entertainers.

No matter what, she’s not perfect. Nobody is perfect! In fact, she is very different and has different spiritual beliefs that I understand and respect. For the Black and Brown people who don’t like the representation of our people, I say, “get you and your children into pro sports or the entertainment business and live as close to perfect as you possibly can because I know that’s what I’m striving to do for me and my children. Even if we just stay local, we still make a difference”. This is an opportunity to turn a negative into a positive and all people of color should strive to be the very best in everything we do. It’s time for people of color to lead the Nation!

Who are YOU to judge??? Who are YOU to say that her life isn’t right??? Who are YOU to say that her life IS right???? Who are you to even say what’s right and what’s not?? Who are YOU, anyways?????? What works for one person doesn’t always work for another one. Her family seems to be doing just fine. You NEVER hear Andre, DOC and even Common talk trash about her and her mothering skills (the way that Russell Simmons recently dogged out Kimora). Chances are, she’s probably a lot more happier (and richer in ways that you can’t possibly imagine) and even living a much better life than you and/or I will ever live. Her life is HER LIFE. Her business is her BUSINESS. Stop trying to dictate what’s RIGHT. Look at your own lives. Clean out your closets. Judge NOONE but yourselves!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some of you people make no sense! Some of you people are confused! Put down the crack pipe, leave the weed alone and stop drinking the alcohol because it’s clear that your heads are not!

Who are you to tell me that I cant judge? Who are you period? Just because you like her music doesn’t excuse her from what she is doing. If any female is going around and, in my opinion seeing, how many rappers that she can have babies by I am going to call it like I see it. I personally don’t give a shit who doesn’t like it. What she is doing is rediculous. I don’t care about the monye that she has. That doesn’t give her any more right than anyone else to do this. This is pitiful and people are blinded by the fact that she is an outstanding artist. By the way I am sure that you have judged someone in your past so stop trying to act all goodie 2 shoes…

I’m just calling out all the holier than thou mofo’s who are quick to pass judgement and think that they’re ABOVE everyone else. That’s how you come off. It’s pitiful because that’s YOUR opinion. It’s not right because it’s YOUR opinion. But like I asked earlier, WHO ARE YOU????????? Family isn’t what it used to be. I come from two broken families, hell it took a community to raise me and I turned out just fine. Erykah has never done anything in an orthodoxed fashion so this shouldn’t be surprising to anyone. She’s a boho for christ’s sake! lol! In regards to her being “richer,” I meant in life, I wasn’t talking about money. And while we’re on money, as long as my tax money don’t pay for her children, I’m cool. (I think someone mentioned that earlier). I don’t judge people, don’t have time for all that gossip and negativity sweetie. I live my life and let others live their lives. People aren’t blinded by the fact that she’s an outstanding artist, they’re letting a grown woman live her life and not worry about her vajayjay. You should do the same.

Trust me I don’t care who is running up in her, and apparently there are a lot of people, she can do what she wants with her pussy but when you are bring children in this mess this shit is just wrong. Some grown women you just can’t let live there lives because like a teenager they will do stupid shit like this. I can see family isn’t what it use to be and Badu is making that point clear. Now you can just pick out what group of entertainers that you want and start droppping their kids one after another. Stop using the excuse that she is different. I don’t care how different you are there is nothing that says you should do this I don’t care who her God is. The really sad part is that people are excepting this instead of trying to keep family THE WAY IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE. I don’t think I am above anyone especially her but this is definately unacceptable especially a public figure such as her. It is the selfish attitude “As long as it ain’t my money that is paying for that child I don’t care” that keeps our people down. I am thinking of us as a whole not just myself. I’d personally rather it be a struggling mother that is on welfare trying to get herself together instead of a woman that has picked put a certain group of men, in this case rappers, and is pumping out child after child. This is wrong and I will continue to judge. We all do. EVEN YOU.

How do you know that there are a lot of people running up in her???? Are you sleeping with her??? Do you live with her???? How do you know that this is mess??? Do you visit her???? Are you a fly on the wall??? Have any of her children told you that they were abused???? Have Andre 3000 and the DOC told you that Erykah is a bad mommy??? Has Jay Electronica said told you anything??? How do you know that Erykah’s situation is wrong???? What works for you doesn’t work for everyone else. Your way of life is different than other people’s way of living. She didn’t just drop another kid with another rapper. (You didn’t read the entire post sweetness.) What is the way that the family is supposed to be???? I’d like to know. I really do. And please don’t say a two-parent household. What is thee perfect family??? How is family supposed to work??? What is the blueprint for having a child/family?? And don’t say marriage because I’m sure you’re smart enough to know that marriage isn’t forever. When I say that my money isn’t paying for her children, that’s not selfish. That shows that Erykah’s responsible that she’s NOT using government assistance and taxpayer money to raise her FAMILY. If she were, you’d really have a field day then, I bet. So you’d rather use MY taxpayer money to raise your child??? Hmmm.  Interesting turn of events here for someone to be judging so harshly. I can’t change your way of thinking but you must understand that you live in a world where your view of family and children are NOT supreme. Stay woke god (or earth). Stay woke. And keep judging and being the perfect little angle that you are. ‘Cuz we know that you don’t do any wrong. Peace and blessings!

Family’s are suposed to have TWO PARENTS in the house. Don’t listen to studies do your own study and you will find out in single parent households the children are more likely to be in trouble weather it be in jail, failing or dropping out in school, or a host of other thing that can’t be contained. Single mothers don’t know what to do with their sons because they were never little boys. Don’t get me wrong the mother is the KEY to a family but the father is needed. I don’t care about mariage but 2 parents need to be in the house not the father just visiting. You hear it all the time and there is a reason for that and that is because it’s right. Other races see this blacks need to get on board. I now see why we have so many single mother households thats because we condone it and think it’s the way it should be. How sad. BTW you are TRYING to put words in my mouth when you say I would rather taxpayers money to raise my children. I never said that.

I don’t have to listen to someone’s BS study on family. I have enough experience to know what a family is, and I’m REAL. My father was working a working parent and in my life but he and my mother just couldn’t keep the family together.And they were MARRIED!!!!!! Two-parent household is cool if it works out but what if it doesn’t? (Nothing’s promised, not even marriage sweetie.) And what if the parents hate each other?? Is that right to put the kids in that kind of negative vibe??? I know friends who grew up in that kind of toxic TWO-PARENT environment and are fugged up from it. I’m not knocking marriage neither, I just understand that it won’t make me secure. I will make MYSELF secure. And I see what you’re saying but marriage and family is just not that cut and dry. Family is whomever or whatever you make it, that’s what Oprah was saying. It took a COMMUNITY to raise me: church, school, youth center, neighbors. When I needed food, clothes, resources and advice, I turned to the people in my community. They RAISED me. A village raised me (that African saying is true). And just becase two parents are present doesn’t always mean that the child will turn out to be wonderfully successful. Bad kids come from two-parent homes too, ya know. You’re generalizing up there a little bit.

And again, you’re really speaking on Erykah’s situation like you’re a Wright and you live in her house. How do you know that Erykah’s children’s fathers don’t keep the kids or see them often??? How do you know their parental arrangements??? If you do, school me on it.

And these are your words: “I’d personally rather it be a struggling mother that is ON WELFARE trying to get herself together instead of a woman that has picked put a certain group of men, in this case rappers, and is pumping out child after child.”

On welfare means that MY taxpayer dollars are going to supporting YOU AND YOURS. Welfare=government assistance=my taxpayer dollars.
Or did you mean to say something else???? School me on that one too.

Really? Is this written in the Constitution or something because I think I missed it! lol

You correctly quoted me and still can’t figure out what I am saying I never insinuated your tax dollars support me and mines. I said supporting a single parent. What part of that don’t you get? That village statement is so far from the truth it isn’t funny but since someone said it you believe it. Think about it there are some good and bad people in every community and if they all raised my children they would be so confused. It takes me and my girl to raise our kids not everybody else. True just because 2 parents are in the house doesn’t mean it is going to work. I have a friend that is with his wife and they have no control over their children. The parents that are in the house also have to parent not just be there. True you don’t have to listen to no BS study that is why I said DO YOUR OWN STUDY and you will see for yourself. Bottom line the more time a child spends with a the parents that parent the better off they will be.

I correctly quoted YOU and YOU still can’t figure out what YOUR saying sweetie, especially if I correctly quoted YOU. A single parent (whomever it may be) on welfare is STILL using taxpayer dollars to support the family.

African sages didn’t come up with statement for nothing. There’s a lot of validity in it. I don’t believe it because someone said it, I believe it because I KNOW it. I LIVED it. Even ‘til this day, I see it. When you send your children to school and their teacher compliments their painting or encourages them, doesn’t that have a positive effect on their self esteem?? Or when you send your child to Boy/Girl Scout sessions and they raise money for a local charity, doesn’t that also make them a better person? Like I said earlier, it’s not so clear-cut. Everybody’s situation is different. Things, especially life, isn’t so easily defined. It’s very subtle ways that the community “raises” or helps children. And I’m NOT knocking you and your girl’s parenting. I’m saying that children learn and grow from others just as much as they do their immediate family.

“Bottom line the more time a child spends with a the parents that parent the better off they will be.”

I agree with you here sweetie. In Erykah’s case, if her children spend time with the parents, then the better off they will be too.

End of discussion.

You stated that I wanted taxpayers money to take care of “ME AND MINES” read your own post, and now you have changed your answer. I don’t care what african sages say like I said just because someonse said it (in this case an african sage)  you believe it. Let me get this straight if a child helps in a fundraiser that makes them a better person. No it doesn’t. What kind of thinking is that? The community helps you with yours but WE parent our children f**k what everybody else says. My children see what other children do but they do what we say. Bottom line is that Erykah’s way isn’t the right way but it is her choice just like it is my choice to voice an opinion. In Erykah’s case it will take a village to raise her children because the all the men in the rap village will end up being their parents. Now END OF DISCUSSION!

According to whom????? Sounds like you’ve written an all universal guide on parenting and family. What you say goes. But only in your mind sweetness. Unfortunately, we all have a way of doing things. Whether they’re “right” or “wrong.” We do what works best for us. And at the end of our lifetimes, only the MOST HIGH will JUDGE us for our actions. Leave the criticism up to him/her.

Toodles!!!!

You don’t have to write a book to know common since. Only in Black America would we think this is right. All other countries and cultures look down on this type of shit. I wonder why that is??? This shows that you can’t always blame men for broken homes.

I have four children by four fathers! Please, before you assume, just ask me first and I’ll tell you about my life. Are there any other men, women and children out there in similar situations who are willing to speak out? Please do cuz you’re not alone.

Personally I would like to hear about your life. I am asking because more times then not these situations consist of chicken heads that are laying on their back that are randomly pushing out kids with no reguards for their childrens upbringing. I would really like to hear your story.

I told you before that I lived with my birth parents before I got adopted. They just couldn’t do the whole marriage thing and the family SPLIT.
Now that was a TWO-PARENT HOME and TRADITIONAL FAMILIAR STRUCTURE THAT JUST DIDN’T WORK. It doesn’t work with everyone. As long as the children are loved, then it shouldn’t even matter. But like I said, you’re stuck in your ways and won’t respect anybody’s view but your own. Shame. Sad. Pity.

Angelina Jolie just popped out two babies and she’s not married. Halle Berry isn’t married. Salma Hayek had a child out of wedlock. I say this to say if you want to get on Erykah for having children out of wedlock and not having a traditional family life, let’s call out all the celebs not living “right” by your standards.

Also, Britney Spears just gave K-Fed full custody. Now HER MOTHERING SKILLS and family structure are who you should be criticizing instead of Erykah’s. I really feel sad for Britney’s child, but no one’s going to talk about that. Blast the black woman who’s doing a dam good job taking care of her responsibilities.

Having children out of wedlock isn’t my issue. I am talking about homes without 2 parents, mainly the father. I myself am not married but I have 2 children. (I live with my children and their mother) First Britney, Hers was a situation that didn’t work, at least she tried the traditional way. Her parenting skills just plain suck no question about that. Angelina and Brad are together as far as I know so I don’t have a problem with them having kids. I don’t know about Halle and Selma’s situation so I will not speak on them. I am not saying that all 2 parent homes work. I have a friend that is married and they have 3 kids and clearly that family is a reck. So no it doesn’t always work nothing is 100% but most people know that 2 parent homes are the best chance for children. This jump on the black woman statement that you made was so far form the truth. I don’t know what made you say that. Randomly having children by different men is not a good thing to do but “It’s a womans body and you can’t tell her what to do with it”  is part of the problem. This is why we have the single mother problem in our race today cause you can’t tell these women what to do. They need to be controlled somehow. BTW this is not my way it is the way that is why it’s called TRADITIONAL.

I had a relationship at the age of 15, he was 19. We used to argue, fuss and fight but we thought we were in love. He asked me to marry him when I was 18. I said yes just to get out my mother’s house. We conceived a daughter shortly after the marriage and when I was 6 months along he hit me in my belly. He used to steal money out of our bank account during that time. I think it was drugs. After my daughter was born, he became angrier and jealous. I stopped fighting him after we got married but he would still hit me. Before our daughter turned 1, we were seperated, a year later, divorced. I became a single parent on my own with family support. I got my cosmetology license, went into the Army Reserves for eight years and attended college as a double major, Accounting/Business. I met my next child’s father in college and we had a son. I didn’t believe in marriage anymore, just spiritual partnerships. He was a womanizer with a girlfriend who had two children with him before I had his son. We didn’t last, I don’t like to share. I met one of his friends and got involved. We had a son, he was also abusive but I fought him back until I took my 3 children, closed my Hair Salon and moved out of town right under his nose. I met a man who had no children and said he couldn’t have any. I got involved and we had a son. I got my tubes tied. I don’t want or need anymore children. I have my own place and he owns a house nearby. We’re engaged with no set date but he’s always at our house. Our relationship is the most solid that we both ever had. He’s been married twice with no children. My daughter graduated HS with honors and academic scholarships. She’s attending college next month. I am a FT student, PT stylist/braider, graduating with a Bachelors in Accounting/Business in April 09 to start a successful career. My children see their fathers and they support them except for the one that I picked up and left. He owes arrears of about $5,000 with a bench warrant. One day, he’ll get caught like before. I’m 38, my partner is 42, he drives trucks locally and he was in the military, too. My exes had jobs as construction workers, sanitation drivesr and city councilman and military men, as well. They didn’t always have honest paying jobs, they dealt marijuana. My fiance’ has no record, no drugs or alcohol in his past or present. We have a sober lifestyle. I was not always sober when I conceived my two older sons. We have a good relationship for us and our children but I admit, it will be better when we get married and/or live together. Thank you asking.

I’m not proud of this but I’m also an ex-stripper who worked to make ends meet when I was struggling to support my childen before I met the man I’m with now. He knows my past of marijuana use as well. He used to drive long distance which is a dog’s life, I hear. We both have changed and he asked me to move to his city. It’s been a year now and we’re all getting closer everyday. I’m telling my story because the common denominator is INSTABILITY when it comes down to bringing children into this world under unfavorable circumstances and with different people. I can admit my faults and learn from them. I hope to help others make better choices, especially my very own children. Remember, children do as we do, not as we say. So it’s important to make a change for the better in hopes to raise them up the right way. I never had a father, I’m the youngest of seven. My mother also had four differnet fathers for her children. She also started out married and in abusive relationships except she only had a 10th grade level education. My daughter says she doesn’t want children, maybe not, but I hope she makes better choices, my sons as well. This vicous cycle must be broken.

Funny you had nothing negative to say about Brad and Angelina, Halle or Salma who are all in “untraditional” family settings like Erykah. Read up on Ulrick Johnson. She has four children by four different men. She, like Erykah, takes care of her responsibilities.

“Randomly having children by different men is not a good thing to do but”

Quiet as it’s kept, Erykah’s been with this man for some years now so I don’t know where you get the “random” part from. How do you know they didn’t plan it?? And she was with Andre for a long time and has been with the DOC for a long time. The one thing I do respect about her is that she keeps her business out of the limelight. You never see her parading her children out in the spotlight and she barely talks about her relationships, including Jay. Again, you didn’t read her ENTIRE post. 

It’s 2008. NOTHING’S done in the traditional way anymore. And you even said it yourself: “{I myself am not married but I have 2 children. (I live with my children and their mother)”
Here’s another ironic twist. Honestly, I thought you were married with children. For someone to place such harsh judgement on someone they don’t even know, you don’t even seem to be in the “traditional” family setting that you so highly tout. I don’t know you and won’t criticize you for not marrying your SO, because like Erykah, that’s your business. But whatever works for you, works for you.

In closing, I’d like to say that INSTABILITY can be avoided by doing FIRST THINGS FIRST. If I had a chance to do it over again, this EXAMPLE for young men and women is the one I’d follow:
1. Get your HS diploma
2. Go to college
3. Start a career
4. Get married
5. And then have children
*Use condoms and birth control if you can’t wait.
Peace

Funny how you are trying to turn this into something that I am not talking about . I am strictly talking about 2 parents in a house. Marriage is a whole nother topic. As I stated before Halle and Selma’s situation I don’t know much about and as far as I know Brad and Angelina live together so to me they are traditional (2 parents) I really don’t have much to say about the marriage topic because that isn’t what I am talking about. I am talking about SINGLE PARENT HOMES. Lets not get off the topic. At some point Erykah has to look in the miror and stop this. Who’s next Naz, Jay-Z, Cool J. What she is doing is very tacky and MOST of know this. That is the problem in our race too many woman are OK with doing this type of thing. Once is a mistake repeatedly is a trend and she is setting her own “hip-hop” trend. Single parent homes most of the time just don’t work.

All of you who took time to negatively respond to this sister’s pregnancy and personal life are Loooooooooooooosers!!! Word Up. I have to laugh.  Especially the dumb coon ass n***rs who are whining about how this makes “us as a race” look. You are an idiot and I will go to war with you on on your ignorance alone and crush you!! And that don’t have shit to do with Erykah Badu—just you being stupid as hell.  HHhhhhhh.  What is this world coming to when people are so consumed with Erykah Badu, Angelina Jolie, Brad Pitt—whatever. You need to go wash your draws, pick up a book, go to the grocery store, raise your babies right.  DO something productive.  You’re SOOOOOO lame. Men, women, and children are dying everyday from real shit and you got time to worry about what some woman who happens to be talented and famous is doing in her personal life.  I bet you wish somebody was talking about your shit and what goes on with you!!! You are mystified by Bull shit.  I bet you think Jesus is the man on your mama’s wall and Santa Claus is real and probably in the tooth fairy too—you probably eat swine and are a loser in your personal life.  Grow up assholes.

The only coon ass n***r up here is you. It’s black people like you that think we live in this world by ourselves and think that what ever our race does nobody else sees. You might try to go to war but your stupid 12 year old ass is the only one that will come out of it stepped on. What is this world coming to whe stupid ass n***rs like you condone women, fameous or not, just having children by different men. Oh yeah, that’s right only hood ass bitches like yourself think like this. Any real woman knows this is stupid. I feel how I feel about any woman doing this but she is in the public eye and doing this. That makes it worse bitch. Men, women, and children are dying over “real shit” but if you think single parent homes ain’t “real shit” then that shows us all who the real f**king dummy is. SHUT THE F*CK UP BITCH!

Everybody, please be kind to one another! As my beloved Bob Marley (God Bless His Soul) and the Wailers would say, “We don’t need no more trouble! What we need is love, sweet love!” I LOVE YOU ALL! PEACE!

First off, I love Eryka as an artist, women (black or not) and generally what she has been doing in her amazing artist career, but ...

There is a backlash against fatherless families in some part of black society, and I applaud it.

Eryka may be reliving the continues cycle of her fatherless childhood, but enough is enough.

Two parents balance a child’s life and if they are honest and dedicated they can make it happen ... at least TRY to be dedicated while the child grows up (not to see the child in between tours, oh please, that’s an excuse, not support).  Her simple excuses as to why families fall apart doesn’t say she ever tried to keep together with each baby father.  See planned to be an only mother.

This is a horrible example to baby mothers raising children who do not have the financial backing of an international recording star.  If she truly cared about black America she would make this distinction between her life and the thousands of children being raised to live in poverty and despair

I totally agree with you but in our community this trend is going to continue to happen until some of these women understand how this is hurting our race, and their children. Women and society blame men all the time but the final say is the woman. At some point they (women) are going to have to start to make better decisions because they are the ones that are stuck with the children, that are looked down on when they have multiple baby fathers. Some think it’s cute, some think they can be fathers to the children but ultimately this isn’t the way and it fails. So for those that are commending her and saying how strong she is you are telling young girls that it’s OK when it isn’t.

some of u muthaf**kas r some true haters!!! ya’ll need 2 get ya’ll some bussiness. but i lov haters, and erykah should be proud 2 have u stupid muthaf**kas!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Some of you motherf**kers are women going around doing the same shit that Erykah is doing and getting mad when people talk about women like you and her. Show some pride stop having babies by any and everyone then you won’t feel guilty when people talk about you… We ain’t hatin just stop this dumb shit.

bitch, getting mad about what? cause i’m handling my bussiness! don’t none of my children want for nothing! they all know their daddies, if they need anything from their daddies, they let them know. and by the way, i was married to one of them. never judge another women about her situations. all relationships don’t work out!!! anyway how many children do u got?

I knew you were one of those bitches with a bunch of kids by different men. I got 2 children by the same woman and we are still together. True enough never judge another person by someone elses situation but Badu is in the public eye and we are all going to be judged by the situation that she is in like it or not. She, just like a lot of other black woman, should know better but there is always an outlet… just blame the man. We aren’t the ones pushing out all these children you guys are and until black WOMEN stop this we will ALL be judged by these actions so you guys just keep having babies by several different men and taking down our race cause that is exactly what you all are doing.

Amen, I agree with you. Men are always getting blamed for unwanted pregnancies when it is the women that are having the unwanted children. I heard this on TV and I will repeat it. “Women are the ones with the ultimate decision” and if you decide to lay down with a man that is a dog or you know doesn’t want a child by you then you get what you deserve and yes, you are letting our race down.

tradition…
noun 1. the handing down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information, etc., from generation to generation, esp. by word of mouth or by practice: a story that has come down to us by popular tradition. 
2. something that is handed down: the traditions of the Eskimos. 
3. a long-established or inherited way of thinking or acting: The rebellious students wanted to break with tradition. 
4. a continuing pattern of culture beliefs or practices.
5. a customary or characteristic method or manner: The winner took a victory lap in the usual track tradition. 
6. Theology. a. (among Jews) body of laws and doctrines, or any one of them, held to have been received from Moses and originally handed down orally from generation to generation.
b. (among Christians) a body of teachings, or any one of them, held to have been delivered by Christ and His apostles but not originally committed to writing.
c. (among Muslims) a hadith.

7. Law. an act of handing over something to another, esp. in a formal legal manner; delivery; transfer.

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1350–1400; ME tradicion < OF < L tr?diti?n- (s. of tr?diti?) a handing over or down, transfer, equiv. to tr?dit(us), ptp. of tr?dere to give over, impart, surrender, betray (tr?-, var. of tr?ns- trans- + -ditus, comb. form of datus given; see date 1 ) + -i?n- -ion
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tra·di·tion   (tr?-d?sh’?n)  Pronunciation Key
n. 
The passing down of elements of a culture from generation to generation, especially by oral communication.

A mode of thought or behavior followed by a people continuously from generation to generation; a custom or usage.
A set of such customs and usages viewed as a coherent body of precedents influencing the present: followed family tradition in dress and manners. See Synonyms at heritage.
A body of unwritten religious precepts.
A time-honored practice or set of such practices.
Law Transfer of property to another.

[Middle English tradicion, from Old French, from Latin tr?diti?, tr?diti?n-, from tr?ditus, past participle of tr?dere, to hand over, deliver, entrust : tr?-, tr?ns-, trans- + dare, to give; see d?- in Indo-European roots.]

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tradition

c.1380, from O.Fr. tradicion (1292), from L. traditionem (nom. traditio) “delivery, surrender, a handing down,” from traditus, pp. of tradere “deliver, hand over,” from trans- “over” + dare “to give” (see date (1)). The word is a doublet of treason (q.v.). The notion in the modern sense of the word is of things “handed down” from generation to generation. Traditional is recorded from c.1600; in ref. to jazz, from 1950. Slang trad, short for trad(itional jazz) is recorded from 1956; its general use for “traditional” is recorded from 1963.

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tradition

noun
1.  an inherited pattern of thought or action
2.  a specific practice of long standing [syn: custom] 

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Main Entry: tra·di·tion
Function: noun
Etymology: French, legal transfer
in the civil law of Louisiana : transfer or acquisition of property esp. by delivery with intent of both parties to transfer the title tradition —Louisiana Civil Code>

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Tradition

Tra*di"tion\, n. [OE. tradicioun, L. traditio, from tradere to give up, transmit. See Treason, Traitor.]

1. The act of delivering into the hands of another; delivery. “A deed takes effect only from the tradition or delivery.”—Blackstone.

2. The unwritten or oral delivery of information, opinions, doctrines, practices, rites, and customs, from father to son, or from ancestors to posterity; the transmission of any knowledge, opinions, or practice, from forefathers to descendants by oral communication, without written memorials.

3. Hence, that which is transmitted orally from father to son, or from ancestors to posterity; knowledge or belief transmitted without the aid of written memorials; custom or practice long observed.

Will you mock at an ancient tradition begun upon an honorable respect?—Shak.

Naught but tradition remains of the beautiful village of Grand-Pr[‘e].—Longfellow.

4. (Theol.) (a) An unwritten code of law represented to have been given by God to Moses on Sinai.

Making the word of God of none effect through your tradition, which ye have delivered.—Mark vii. 13. (b) That body of doctrine and discipline, or any article thereof, supposed to have been put forth by Christ or his apostles, and not committed to writing.

Stand fast, and hold the traditions which ye have been taught, whether by word or our epistle.—2 Thess. ii. 15.

Tradition Sunday (Eccl.), Palm Sunday;—so called because the creed was then taught to candidates for baptism at Easter.

Tradition

Tra*di"tion\, v. t. To transmit by way of tradition; to hand down. [Obs.]

The following story is . . . traditioned with very much credit amongst our English Catholics.—Fuller.

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Tradition

any kind of teaching, written or spoken, handed down from generation to generation. In Mark 7:3, 9, 13, Col. 2:8, this word refers to the arbitrary interpretations of the Jews. In 2 Thess. 2:15; 3:6, it is used in a good sense. Peter (1 Pet. 1:18) uses this word with reference to the degenerate Judaism of the “strangers scattered” whom he addresses (comp. Acts 15:10; Matt. 15:2-6; Gal. 1:14).

we create our own traditions…..all the time….
judg?ment? ?/?d??d?m?nt/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [juhj-muhnt] Show IPA Pronunciation

–noun 1. an act or instance of judging.
2. the ability to judge, make a decision, or form an opinion objectively, authoritatively, and wisely, esp. in matters affecting action; good sense; discretion: a man of sound judgment. 
3. the demonstration or exercise of such ability or capacity: The major was decorated for the judgment he showed under fire. 
4. the forming of an opinion, estimate, notion, or conclusion, as from circumstances presented to the mind: Our judgment as to the cause of his failure must rest on the evidence. 
5. the opinion formed: He regretted his hasty judgment. 
6. Law. a. a judicial decision given by a judge or court.
b. the obligation, esp. a debt, arising from a judicial decision.
c. the certificate embodying such a decision and issued against the obligor, esp. a debtor.

7. a misfortune regarded as inflicted by divine sentence, as for sin.
8. (usually initial capital letter) Also called Last Judgment, Final Judgment. the final trial of all people, both the living and dead, at the end of the world.

Also, especially British, judgement.

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1250–1300; ME jug(g)ement < OF jugement, equiv. to juge- (s. of jugier to judge ) + -ment -ment

judgement

noun
1.  the legal document stating the reasons for a judicial decision; “opinions are usually written by a single judge” [syn: opinion] 
2.  an opinion formed by judging something; “he was reluctant to make his judgment known”; “she changed her mind” [syn: judgment] 
3.  the cognitive process of reaching a decision or drawing conclusions [syn: judgment] 
4.  the mental ability to understand and discriminate between relations [syn: sagacity] 
5.  the capacity to assess situations or circumstances shrewdly and to draw sound conclusions [syn: judgment] 
6.  (law) the determination by a court of competent jurisdiction on matters submitted to it [syn: judgment] 
7.  the act of judging or assessing a person or situation or event; “they criticized my judgment of the contestants” [syn: judgment]

we have opinions. if you have a thought on something, whether or not you release it verbally or not, you have just come to a conclusion in yourself. a judgement.

That was a whole lot of nothing. What are you talking about?

Black women and men died to get married, go to school, and be treated as human beings. We moved forward because of our strong Christian beliefs, we knew the difference between right and wrong. 3 baby daddies by someone so old is just plain nasty!

I have met Erykah’s children Puma and Seven several times. My parents live down the street from her. I was shocked at all the ignorant, arrogant comments. Who are you to judge someone you do not even know. Puma and Seven are the most wonderful, well rounded, smart and loving kids you could ever meet. Erykah is a damn good mother and they always have family and friends around. She has provided a very wholesome, loving home to raise children, and they show it. Congratulations to her on the new arrival of baby Mars! And shame on all you ignorant people who just like to run your mouths.

I am shocked, well actually not shocked, that anyone can say that Erykah can provide a wholesome loving home with all the different fathers that she will have coming in and out of the house to pick up those kids. That is not a wholesome home that is called a daycare when you have parent after parent checking in to pick up their kids. Only an ignorant person can say that this type of home is wholesome. Shame on anyone for condoning this behavior. A damn good mother wouldn’t continue to have baby after baby by different men.

damn, it’s so double-standard. if erykah was a male rapper and had like 2 babies by 2 girlfriends nobody would ever talk shit about that, but since she’s a woman-OMG!!!How dare she!!?? that’s so dumb i would understand if she was poor and her children were needy or smth, but i’m sure thay have everything they need, and what is more-should i care about that? that’s none of my business and neither is yours. her familyis not your around the corner hood family of a single mom and 3 kids, who are not educated and left to be on their own. erykah is smart and spiritual let’s leave her alone!
sometimes it’s even weird for me that in america, country so democratic such issues would ever come up. i’m from europe.

Get over it guys.

Mind your own business.

The whole point of being a parent is to provide a safe and progressive life for your child. If you are broke and unable then you should reconsider having multiple children. Erykah is making leaders for our future not just causing child havic like most of you nosey ass people. Help with your hands and hearts shut your mouths and blot out your negative opinions. How are you helping anyone by categorizing people by there skin you people are the reason why we have the negative stereotypes we have.

I agree with the examples that she has given when it comes to hurtful and toxic relationships and teaching our children that that kind of behavior is okay to keep alive. I pretty much agree with everything she had said. There is a possibility of partners understanding and loving each other and being in a lasting and healthy relationship and bringing children into the world…or bringing their existing child/children together in a positive way. the idea of marriage is and has been very skewed. Its about being a positive and understanding human being to your partner and the rest of the world. Also being able to love and support your children and partner in all aspect of your life as well as loving and supporting yourself. She obviously loves, supports and teaches her children well. I think she is a beautiful person with great music and I am glad she has good relationships with their fathers and families. alot of women should aspire to be as intelligent and as strong as the example right here. <3

GET YOUR OWN LIVES PEOPLE!

I love it!!!! Your confidence is heard throughout your response. Hopefully, the people that are judging you have a clearer understanding and will leave you alone. I have loved you since day one.(As far back as your doing a state fair in Mobile,Al in the late 90’s)(Even before that you did Club 500 in Mobile,Al) All of your true fans understand you and probably envy your boldness and honesty. Bottomline, “E”, do you!!! And that’s what that is!!!!!

The key is respect. Respect everyone whether you agree or not.  We live our own lives for ourselves.  Erykah Badu has no obligation to the African American race except to stay black.

Do your thing Erykah because the truth is, whether they like it or not, black women for the most part ARE in the same situation as you.  I feel like you spread positive energy to us so we can move on and be good parents to our children fatherless or whatever.  Like you say, people are drifting and ain’t no tellin where you’ll land.  We cant predict the cards we’re dealt! It happens as we grow. We work with it, appreciate it and make the best of it.  Much luv to you, and everyone else(including haters cause they need it most).

To all you perfect judgmental mindless people, drink bleach 😊 you make human beings look bad Smh

It disappoints me that we are so brainwashed.  Our Black women, (and/or men) perm our hair, use birth control that is very harmful to our body/temple, stay weaved out, miseducate our children, feed them all types of bullshit (meat, toxics,drugs) VACCINATE them with all these drugs, spend more time at work then at home, think that going to get a marriage certificate makes it a “marriage”, send them to public schools without thinking of the consequences, think if your not christian your going to hell, (I could go on a and on) ........were so gone, WAKE UP , we are in the process of ascension, the planet is ascending, raise your consciousness people, raise your vibration, heal yourself, THink for yourself, Thoughts are things, Stay positive…........Erykah has great wisdom, she thinks outside the box, we all are on our OWN spiritual path, the path of our soul….WE are souls having a physical experience not physical beings having a soul experience….........some of us are so scared…..“THERE ARE ONLY TWO EMOTOINS FEAR AND LOVE ALL OTHER EMOTIONS BRANCH EITHER DIRECTLY OR INDIRECTLY FROM THESE TWO EMOTIONS< FEAR HAS A LOW AND SLOW FREQUENCY TO IT WHILE LOVE HAS A VERY RAPID AND HIGH FREQUENCY TO IT” from erykahs cd, CHOOSE TO LOVE AND RAISE YOUR VIBRATION EDUCATE YOURSELF…...the time is NOW….HER VALUES/WISDOM ALONE WILL TAKE HER PLACES MANY OF US ONLY DREAM OF GOING ......I say all this in love

Peace